What Is Love? Baby Don’t Hurt Me.

As a kid I learned love and marriage goes together like a horse and carriage. Originally, I thought the song said, “a horse and carrots.” My mother had to explain the song to me. I learned many lessons about love and marriage during my childhood, in the early years of my rearing I began to see marriage as an expendable resource, a union of convenience. Rather than marriage being complementary like a horse and carriage, it appeared to be more like a horse chasing a carrot, never finding satisfaction or sustenance.

During my years in the Navy I saw marriages begin and end, some due to the toll of military life, others due to the broken and selfish nature of mankind. I saw many people who were married treat marriage as nothing more than an at home benefit, a contract with loopholes. Still, some remained true to their vows; in particular I remember two petty officers above me who were great examples. These two men showed me the real value and purpose of marriage and it was revealed in more than their words. I thank God for the two men I speak of and the example they set for a young ordnanceman.

In college, I had a professor that said love occurs when two people say and do the right things for the right amount of time…and it love crumbles when they stop doing and saying the right things for the right amount of time. The professor reminded us of the value God has placed on marriage and the fact that marriage it is not to be entered lightly–it should not be lived indifferently.

Through our short ten years of marriage I have learned first hand love is more than an emotion, it’s an action. There are times she has wanted to wring my neck and there are times we wanted to give up. Thankfully, love is an emotion and an action, but even surpasses action. Love is a state of mind, heart, and soul that is strengthened by emotions, displayed in actions, and anchored in Christ. I’ve seen my marriage nearly crumble before my eyes due to negligence, selfishness, sin, harbored anger, and quite honestly being ill prepared. Today I see a union, a relationship, a friendship, that continues to grow and keep me looking ahead.

I saw it all begin to crumble and I saw Christ begin to repair it and make it something greater than before. I would be wrong to deny credit to God and His grace, it took us working and talking but it took the hand of Christ to bond the rocks together again. What is my point then? Don’t give up, love is complicated. Love is many things, look at 1 Corinthians 13 for a refresher in regards to love. We cannot learn this lesson in seclusion, sometimes love hurts. We cannot learn all about love in leading a solitary life, after all, love is displayed in action.

In life there are times we drive in the rain, fog, and darkness and we need help to see, we cannot see love clearly without the headlights on and wipers going. Jesus is the Light and Scripture is our wipers. People, timing, and other variables will enter your road, don’t let them get you off the path, don’t let them distract you, don’t let the variables kill you or your marriage. Maybe you have already let those variables in your road hurt or tear your marriage or love… hit the brakes, throw it in reverse and return to Christ and His Way.



The Ol’ Trump Card

Calling it “Two Corinthians” happens often in the UK and in Scotland where I believe Donald Trump’s mother emigrated, though, this gaffe was likely due to his false faith. I say false faith and hope I am wrong, but you can tell a tree by its fruit.

Trump’s clear betrayal of biblical morals and teachings displays very clearly this man is a wolf– to anyone looking that is. His racism, xenophobia, chauvinism, and love for division show us he is a coconut tree claiming to be an apple tree. Jesus has called us to live wise like a snake and innocent as a dove, Jesus called us to love our neighbor as our self. None of us are perfect but our lives should personify the teaching of Scripture, I just don’t see it in the life of the Donald. If he owns a bible it is probably covered in dust, if he has the app it was probably downloaded the day he announced his candidacy, if he’s ever prayed it was likely during one of his divorces.

Oh, one last thing…Trump believes he is the solution to the problems in this country. He believes he can be the savior Americans are looking for, the savior of the church–sorry bub, that’s the role of Jesus! He quoted Scripture with no regard for its context, though many do this and it is equally horrifying; where is the outrage, where is the coverage? People want to talk about the “Two Corinthians” but forget about the rest. A problem is, many who follow this man don’t read their bibles either, many believe exactly as he does…our hope is in man and his solutions, America is the world’s greatest hope, and our liberty is found in safety and comfort.

When Paul wrote 2 Corinthians 3:17, the Liberty he reminds us of even still today is  one that frees us from slavery to sin and the guilt it brings, a freedom filled with the transforming power of the Gospel, freedom from condemnation. Jesus said we will be hated and persecuted because of Him…in His name we will endure hardship and we are to live as sojourners in this land. Donald Trump thinks he can fix that, he thinks he can save us from this, he believes he can bring an end to persecution and obstacles we face in the name of Christ and give us all the comfy and safe life we deserve. Someone should tell Jesus America has a new savior and he’s starred in his own reality show.

I mourn for our country and pray she wakes up…I served this nation proudly in the military but I serve my God, Father, Savior, Redeemer, with greater esteem. I serve Jesus Christ supremely. The Red, White, and Blue will fade, tatter, and at times be turned upside down but Christ died to give us more than finite comfort and escape from our trials. Jesus died to give us freedom from sin, He came to give us hope, and the Holy Spirit abides pointing us to Him; until America sees Christ and falls before him there will be many more Trumps, Sanders, and other wolves claiming to be our great hope.